When I came across the three discourses where the Buddha teaches Rahula, I was surprised that the teachings seemed not only still fresh but also relevant to raising a child in modern America. In fact, these discourses have now become a guide for me as a parent. Therefore, Rahula, train yourself to not utter a falsehood even as a joke.
This part of the story reminds me that there is force but no inner strength behind angry castigation of children. Calmly, when he thought the time was right, the Buddha made his point without punishment or anger. He then instructed his son to become more reflective about all his behavior. Whenever engaging in a physical, verbal or mental activity, you should reflect, will this activity bring harm to myself or to others?
If, on reflecting, you realize it will bring harm, then such activity is unfit for you to do. If you realize that it will bring benefit to you or to others, then it is something fit for you to do. It strikes me as key that instead of teaching his son to recognize absolute notions of right and wrong, the Buddha was teaching him to reflect on harm and benefit; this requires both self-awareness and empathy.
Grounding moral decisions in what is harmful or beneficial helps protect our ethical life from being guided by abstract and external ideals unrelated to the effects of our behavior. Things we do can either detract from or support the direction in which we want to go. The powers of reflection and compassion do not come only from being told to be reflective or compassionate. The Buddha also told Rahula to notice after doing something whether or not it caused harm.
If harm resulted from something Rahula did, he was to find a wise person to confess this to as part of a strategy to do better in the future. From this I have learned the importance of helping a child develop the integrity to admit mistakes. Hearing this, Rahula felt admonished and returned to the monastery without collecting food for the day. I take this to be a radical teaching for a young teenager. However, I remember all too well how, at that age, I was preoccupied with my personal appearance. I have often heard this justified in teens as part of the important developmental process of individuating, of finding themselves.
Is it appropriate to admonish a fourteen-year-old for feelings of vanity? Was the Buddha interfering with normal developmental issues that teens should negotiate alone? Without developing a strong sense of self, how can a young person grow into a psychologically healthy adult?
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I enjoyed reading this little book and actually read it all in one day over two large cups of green tea, while looking out on my urban porch over a busy street, hoping to have a peaceful and restful day at home. And reading it certainly did provide tranquility and some great ideas I immediately embraced in slowing down and for finding peace in the city life. I recommend it as an easy read that creates stillness. I think it would be a perfect book to take along one's day and it is small enough t I enjoyed reading this little book and actually read it all in one day over two large cups of green tea, while looking out on my urban porch over a busy street, hoping to have a peaceful and restful day at home.
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I think it would be a perfect book to take along one's day and it is small enough to slip in your purse or bag and read as a living meditation guide for those long busy days. Oct 12, Toni rated it liked it Shelves: self-help. I am an urban dweller and I think I always will be. Nothing against the meticulously planned suburbs or the tranquil quiet of the country, but I need to be able to go to a museum at a moment's notice or have Chinese food magically appear when I want it.
But as much as I love living in the city, it seems like a lot of other people do as well. And that can lead to noise, strange smells, crowds and other by-products of lots of humans living in a combined space. Urban Mindfulness offers us a Zen approach to dealing with the situations that arise from city life. The short chapters cover such topics as roommates, pets, waiting in lines, public transportation and finding pockets of nature. I read through this pretty quickly as I skipped the things that didn't apply to me roommates, pets , but that is encouraged by the author. One of my favorites tips was regarding the sound of sirens that we hear constantly living in the city especially my neighborhood.
Instead of covering our ears or complaining about how the emergency vehicles speeding through traffic is inconveniencing us, why don't we send positive thoughts, blessings and prayers take your pick to the professionals as they do their jobs and for the well-being of any victims involved.
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It doesn't cost a thing and it can change your whole perspective on things. It's a short, quick read filled with powerful anecdotes for urban life. Jan 10, Karie rated it really liked it.
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I don't live in a very large city, and I don't think a person needs to in order to appreciate this book. We all hear sirens, wait in lines at the grocery store or in a crowded, public bathroom. What I gleaned from this book is that our decisions toward the world around us start from within ourselves.
We may not be able to change the frustrating situation we are in at the moment, but can try to change our own attitudes about the situation. I especially liked reading about how we as humans distrac I don't live in a very large city, and I don't think a person needs to in order to appreciate this book. I especially liked reading about how we as humans distract ourselves from the moment we are living in with the use of smart phones, texting and checking e-mail, rather than reacting with the world in front of our own eyes.
Perhaps if one were to view the world around them with the idea as if they were looking through a camera lens, they could find something beautiful, something memorable; a small token in that snapshot that we are all inherently connected to this world and each other, but that that is something we often forget. This book is a great reminder to remember to breathe, in this sometimes hectic world, and be conscious of our thoughts and actions, and then extend that to everything and everyone else around us.
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Jul 25, Weegee Sachtjen rated it really liked it. I think the subtitle: Cultivating peace, presence and purpose in the middle of it all, pretty much describes the idea of this book. In a demanding city and energy-draining lifestyle, it is hard to find the precious moments to regroup, center and focus. This book points out some of the difficult scenarios metro-living can produce while furnishing new ways to view the situations.
It really comes down to a mental reprogramming of our gut go-to reactions impatience, reaching for technology or spira I think the subtitle: Cultivating peace, presence and purpose in the middle of it all, pretty much describes the idea of this book.